DK : Born:Hindu; Brought up:Punjabi ; Follow:Sikh & now...Married ;)

Good Morning. A very warm welcome to all of you and my newborn friend 2015!


With the dawn of 2015,almost everyone is trying to summarize their 2014 in tens. There are top 10  cities, Top 10 movies, Top 10 roles, Top 100 Women of 2014 (10 would be too less ;)) there are even funny one's like "Top 10 Terrible Yet Hilarious Nipple Tattoos" , so it's everywhere but if i have to summarize my 2014,I will be able to summarize it in one word "HECTIC".

Started with the "Star of the Year award" (Sorry , but i love flaunting ), then my first holidays with friends to Go Goa Gone (Hard to believe , but i never went out of station with only friends till then), then Roka, Courtship period, Ring Ceremony,Marriage, Vaishno Devi,Honeymoon to Bali  & .................................That's It !

Ab ho toh gyi shaadi, after this my events are over,its OUR Events. First Bday,First Diwali,First Karva Chauth, First Month Anniversary, First time me & Heena shouted on each other for vacating washrooms, my first cockroach trick to scare and blackmail her..so you can yourself figure out 2014 has been a roller coaster ride.

Finally, we closed an year on relaxing note by watching "PK" & I must confess both Raj Kumar Hirani & Aamir khan have struck a chord with millions of confused Indian and deserve a standing ovation (Thoda Zyada ho gya ?, don't feel like getting out of blanket,koi na...). They have raised a question which we all come across Day In & Day Out  " So here I am giving my take on one of the most sensitive topic  "Religion".

I am born in a Punjabi family , what do we mean by Punjabi family :
Do we belong from Punjab ? No,
Are we Sikh  with Mother Tongue Punjabi ? No,
Do we live in Punjabi Bagh : No ;),
So exactly what do we mean by Punjabi :
For me being a Punjabi means having Aloo k Paranthe & Lassi in  breakfast,
it means surrounded by Beautiful Punjabi Girls,white as milk (for us everything comes down to food),
 it means "please yeh Rs1100 rakh lo as shagun and later on saying kamaal hai yaar ek baar me pakad liye " and
lastly I have heard these beautiful Punjabi girls are known to be very difficult mother in laws  (remember Two States), so that's how I define Punjabi.


Coming back to religion,in spite of being in existence for 16 years,I was not sure of my god Vaishno Mata,Krishna,Shivji, Ganesh Ji, we followed all.
During my boards exam time i once went to gurudwara,asked for 80% in boards and promise to visit daily if I get a one , I managed 82% , similarly my brother was good looking but unable to manage a girlfriend so i asked him to come along and he managed to get a one in 2 months .
It's been years now, that i have been asking for big and small things and getting them so we continue to visit it daily from last 10 years. Now the question in spite of following it for 10 years, am i sikh ? No because i have less hairs left on my forehead, i shave once in 2 weeks & don''t eat non-veg.

More recently I visited a "Mata Ji " jinhe chowki aati thi (Chowki is hindi term, there is no translation as angrezo ko nhi aati :))  , I was first apprehensive, how can god visit someone at a stipulated time but she told me things which were true and  I was surprised to hear.

So with due respect to all the religions I recommend  follow it but not blindly , try to have sense behind it.
Sikh wears turban because it acted as a helmet during fight,
fasting is important because it detoxifies our body,
not drinking or having non-veg on Tuesday will ensure that you eat veg diet and prohibit alcohol at-least once in a week,
Kisi bhi bhagwan ko mere nails kaatne se or shave karne se problem kyu hogi,
Karva Chauth is an effort to  make your wife slimmer,
and my favorite one : as long you drink once in 2-3 months behind closed doors within your limits and not creating nuisance it's okay ;).

Smoking, though, should be banned in all religions and all countries because its very addictive,harmful,readily available and  my father expired on 1st of Jan itself because of it.

To Summarize in a country like India where people do not have food and shelter having monumens in gold,marbles and granite will not help, we should devote that money to people who need it (not Beggars) , those who work throughout day to make our life comfortable but still have to sleep on pathways.Let's help each other and god will bless us all

Nanak naam chardi kala tere bhane sarbat da bhala : Blessings for everyone

Twade teh twade parivar nu naye Saal di lakh Lakh wadahiyan.


PS: I myself Visit Gurudwara everyday, temple once a month,Church every Christmas & Mosque every time my friend is visiting a one , so I believe in all religions and have an opinion that they are all just different names.Just like I am called Dewank, Minky, Micky, Dabba & most common: Dewank-er by strangers but the person is only one.

Barfi ke side effects.

It’s been quite some time since I wrote a blog, so by looking at the title you must be thinking Dewank pagal ho gya h, health k upar lecture de rha h . Movie freaks must be thinking that because of my limited knowledge of Hindi Cinema, I have combined two diff movies 'Barfi ' & 'Shaadi k side effects' .

But Punjabi's and particularly those who are married know and understand what it means to eat ‘Barfi’ during the engagement process. For those who do not know, eating barfi means both parties mutually agree and things could be taken to the next level. Trust me,Sometimes these unsaid rituals of engagement & marriage could be fun.


I remember, when we went to see ‘Bhabhi’, Bhai liked her a lot and in order to convey his intentions, offer karte hi, he took barfi ka sabse bada wala piece.  But all 3 bhua were in wicked mood, so in order to tease bhai, they grabbed Namkeen (Remember No Sweets No Agreement :) ) and did not allowed anyone else to have barfi until bhai was scared.  While Bhai was getting nervous & disappointed, they got up, offered the sweet to couple and blessed them lovingly. Everyone knew the plan so they burst into laughter & Bhai !!, we all  tease him on this even today.

It’s been more than 2 years since that happened  and I never imagined something of this sort would happen with me but here I am writing my own experience on  ‘Barfi, Shaadi ka interview and its side effects'

Before Rokka :)

 Bhabhi ko Jeans pehni padti hai 

It might surprise you that while looking for a girl for me, the most important topic for everyone was ‘what bhabhi is wearing ’. While we were getting ready , nobody bothered to ask (even once :)) what I am wearing but at least 15 ladies  ( including those jo Saree se niche nhi utarti ) asked Bhabhi ke 'beta Western pehen k jana  unhe bhi toh bta lage hum modern hai ’.

Bhabhi , She was confused to see aunties, who can make her wear Saree even on the Birth Anniversary of their dog (thoda zyada exaggerate ho gya :)) are asking  her to wear western but she liked  the idea and followed  them happily.

Not that I was jealous of this, rather I was happy to see my traditional family suddenly converting into a modern one but yaar koi ladke ko bhi dekh lo.

Bio Data, Telephonic round, Group interview, face to face

I got into this marriage process around 5-6 months back and was offended when someone asked to send my biodata on their mail. I thought ‘Is this an interview? why should I prepare  a one ?’  but as I grew, I realized that this process is also formalize now. It begins with preparing & sharing biodata, followed by telephonic round where families question each other (caste, creed, color, community, no of pets :)), then there is a face to face round where families eat and enjoy and couple is asked  to  sit in a corner and asked to decide their life in 15 mins conversation (come on yaar 15 mins me toh aap shirt/dress bhi nhi decide kar sakte) , finally there is group round for guy where girl’s family scrutinize him on Salary, future plans, Job Responsibilities, color of his boxers :) & guys family scrutinize girl on Shade of her lipstick :), culinary skills, walking style, mark of that pimple and what not !!  


After Rokka :)

 2-2  Mummy

Throughout life you are taught you can only have one mother though fathers can be many (2,3,4…. :)) but mother can only and only be one . But this is the beauty of the marriage, it can bring your world upside down; you suddenly have two mothers and trust me both pampers you equally. So right after eating that cute subtle burfi get ready for having two mothers in your life. I know it’s difficult, it’s been 4 days I am trying to call her mother, mummy :)  .
At the same time you should  understand it’s very very important, Imagine how you would you feel if your fiancée or your wife calls your mother ‘Aunty’ after marriage, sounds uneasy right. So Guys like it or not you should start making an effort from day one.

Star of the Year 

Since the day i joined my org , i always wanted this award but finally when i got nominated this time, i found myself competing with my own lead and another senior guy who has an amazing rapport with our manager and is known for his impeccable working style. So even before the race begin i had a feeling that i had very meager chance that i would win but on Wednesday (a day after my rokka ceremony)  when i reached office i was elated to receive the Star of the Year. Even though we have met lately but i believe i owe her this,its because of her (Read Lady Luck :)) that i got this award.


Trust me the entire process of looking for a girl is so tedious but when I look at her and more importantly, us together, I feel it’s completely worth it & it would not have been possible without you (and those cheat codes k mummy, papa, didi and bhaiya ko kaise ptana hai ;))



P.S. : Heena works with Bhai (in Fluor ) & we have been to same tuition while we were in school , never thought that 10 years later we will decide to marry but woh kehte hain na jo hota hai ache h k liye hota hai sahi kehte hai (Courtesy : Abhey Deol 1:40 ki Last Local : Look at time, i have published the blog :) )

Cheers !!

Heena & Dewank